Why You're STILL Single and Deserve to be...Men's Edition

So  few days ago I posted about why women are single. I talked about women who don't give decent men a chance based on the type of job that he has. Women like this will claim to love Jesus, but won't give a good man a chance because they have certain "standards". 

There is nothing wrong with wanting what you want. Everyone has their own expectations and they have their own standards on what they consider a good thing. Everyone is entitled also to their own opinion. I respect that. I really and honestly do. I also respect the fact that some folks just take it too far and see nothing wrong with that too. 

I came across this blog on social media today about a man looking for a woman. He stated that he made almost 500K a year and that he wanted a "Halle Berry type" woman and that she had to be a "freak in the sheets" but "respectable lady in public.". Okay....here's where his expectations and standards get blurred lines. He also stated that she had to be childless, have a good education, cook like someone from down South, have her own money, and also be willing to give him what he needed 100% of the time even if he came only 50%. 

Wow...just WOW! Are you freaking kidding me?! 

This isn't what a relationship is supposed to be! Even God made sure that with a man as being the head of the household, he made sure that there was equal attention given on both sides. No one was to give less than the other. So why does this man think that he will find a woman who will be happy with only 50% and expect her to give 100%? 

This is why he deserves to be single. 

I'll repeat what I said before. There is nothing wrong with having standards and expectations. You want what you want. In this man's case, he knows exactly what he wants, but unfortunately for him, he's not going to get it unless he finds a woman who is a complete fool. Or a robot. Even the doctor whom this man wrote in to told him that he didn't have realistic expectations. Men, there are plenty of women out there. Plenty of women who aren't after your money, or trying to use your status. There are genuine women out there who just want to have a good man and to pursue a long term relationship. 

Those women may have children. Those women may still be in school. Those women may still be working at a job that she hates, but she's doing what she can to make it on her own. Those same women are the same ones who think that if they date within their own income brackets, they won't be able to find a decent man. Catch 22 on for both sexes. This is where the disconnect is unfortunately. 

So men, let me tell you something. Stop making unrealistic expectations of women. There are some  great women out there, even the ones whom you don't want to date. I'll give another personal example. 

My boyfriend used to not date women like myself at all. He had a rule and that was never to date single moms. He didn't want to be bothered with the "baby daddy" drama or with kids in general. In fact he didn't want to have kids at all himself. He's from a family of all boys and all his brothers have kids...except for him. He has a way with children...THEY LOVE HIM! He could be known as the "child whisperer" because that's how well he is with kids, yet he doesn't want any for himself. Well...he met me...and things slowly changed. 

No I didn't wave a magic wand or anything and magically he changed. No..he matured in a way that he realized that he would be missing out on an opportunity if he stuck to a "list". Not only did he pursue me, but he accepted my children as well. He's been there thru some pretty petty things that have happened due to my ex being jealous of our relationship. He's handled things quite well too. My kids love him. We are now planning a marriage and he hasn't put the idea of having kids off the table either. This can happen for you too, but not if you stick to a personal list. 

Another way that can happen for you is to seek the advice of your Heavenly Father. Believe it or not, he will provide you what you NEED, not necessarily what you want. He knows what you need best. So what if he happens to provide you with someone who doesn't meet the expectations that you have set for yourself? Are you going to question what He sent to you? I would hope not. He knows what's best for you and He only provides the best. He won't send someone who will confuse your or make you look bad. He will send you someone who will not only compliment you, but will be what is BEST for you.  

You weren't expecting that...

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