Are you a Proverbs 31 woman?

I was thinking today about a lot of different things. I had a conversation with a  family member today. He mentioned how his wife was "tired" from looking after the kids. I kinda frowned on this a little bit because his wife doesn't have a regular day job, she's a stay at home wife/mother. I have to admit that when I heard that...it ANGERED me! Why? Why would I be angry over something like that? I'm kinda weird like that.  But that's besides the point. It angered me because I'm a single mom. I've never had the type of support that she has, and I have raised my children by myself for the most part. So whenever I hear of a married woman, who doesn't have the worries that I have say that she's tired, it angers me. 

So now that I've calmed down and checked myself for allowing myself to get angry, I decided to look up something. You ever hear of the Proverbs 31 woman?  Most are familiar with verse in Proverbs that says "A capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman-who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls." -Proverbs 31:10

The chapter goes into greater detail about what a Proverbs 31 woman should do. Now here's where today's woman will start to greatly have issue and disagree. The scripture further explains all the tasks that the Proverbs 31 woman does. She rises early when it's still dark and prepares meals for her family. She goes into the fields and brings food back into the home. She prepares the home with fine tapestry. She keeps herself in good physical shape for her husband and to able to complete her tasks each day. She cares for the children and her children rejoice and praise her. Her husband even praises her for she takes care of the home. Pretty simple stuff right? 

Yet you have songs out here saying "I'm not your Superwoman". (I like the song, but that was before I understood what it was saying.) That message in that song kinda got woman in their feelings . Ummm...why? IT's clearly written in the Bible how a godly woman is supposed to act and behave. It's actually what God favors and how a woman should be aiming for. I have to say that I agree. It's not hard! I'm a single woman and I can see that. Ladies, this whole "independent woman" is great and all...when you're single. But when you get married, you're no longer "independent". 

You become "one" with your husband. You are a team. And your part of the team is to take care of the home and the children. You're supposed to make that home warm. loving and safe for your family. Yes that means that you can't complain too much if your husband isn't doing his fair share of the housework. I'm not saying that you're stepping into the 50's...actually I kinda am. Your husband's job is to take care of you and your family by providing. He's the leader in the home. There are so many things out there saying that marriage is 50/50. No it's not. 

I bet you're thinking...who do you think you are? You're not even married! Yes I know that I'm not married. BUT because I've been studying and researching how God values relationships, I've been applying those principles into my own. I'm now in a relationship that not only has lasted, it has flourished because instead of being "independent" and following the world's ideas of how a relationship should go, I've been applying God's standards. I'm now on my way to planning my marriage. Yes I said marriage, not a wedding. I'm more concerned about how my marriage is going to go, not my wedding. I want to have the qualities of a Proverbs 31 woman. I want to be an example to other women. 

What have I been studying? I've been reading my Bible. That's it. I encourage you to do the same. It's free, the message never expires and it fits any and every occasion and situation. I can honestly say that if I had used what I know now, maybe my other relationships may have worked out better...or maybe not. If my past had worked out, I wouldn't have met the man I'm planning on marrying. That is something that I'm forever grateful for. Learn from your past, so you don't keep repeating the same mistakes. The issues I learned in my past have helped to mold me in going forward in my current relationship. It hasn't been easy, but I can say that when we finally say "I do" it will be on the right standards and foundation. 

So again I ask you...are you a Proverbs 31 woman?

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